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Living practical, `safe' life may not be living
Posted February 18 2006
Q. I chose a practical career and now I desire a passionate profession. I feel like I am caught between two worlds, and I have a huge amount of fear. What can I do? -- J.J., New York
A. Georgia O'Keeffe said, "I've been absolutely terrified every moment of my life -- and I've never let it keep me from doing a single thing I wanted to do."
Anytime we connect with an emotion and allow ourselves to stay in the feeling, we will find our way through. "Feel the fear and do it anyway" is a phrase made popular by Susan Jeffers. The operative word is "feel."
Our minds can live a life of their own. We recapitulate and rehash all the fears of those who have chosen the steady course. But that won't bring us bliss, nor will it unleash the potential that lies dormant in most adults.
So many have lived a safe life, but writer Dawna Markova's poem is about living:
I will not die an unlived life. I will not live in fear of falling or catching fire.
I choose to inhabit my days, to allow my living to open me, to make me less afraid, more accessible, to loosen my heart until it becomes a wind, a torch, a promise.
I choose to risk my significance; to live so that which came to me as a seed goes to the next blossom and that which came to me as a blossom goes on as fruit.
Take one step at a time, and surely you will bloom.