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Posted December 9, 2006
Q. I've recently met a number of women who seem so confident. How can I find more confidence? -- D.A., Fort Lauderdale
A. The Greek philosopher Epicurus said, "It is folly for a man to pray to the gods for that which he has the power to obtain himself."
People who are not self-confident depend on the approval of others in order to feel good about themselves. They avoid taking risks because they fear failure. Many people who lack self-confidence put themselves down and either discount or ignore compliments they receive.
Ralph Waldo Emerson said, "Every man has his own courage, and is betrayed because he seeks in himself the courage of other people."
To be self-confident, you must trust your own abilities, have a general sense of control in your life, and believe that, within reason, your wishes, plans and heart's desire will come to the fore.
Golda Meir knew what it takes to find confidence. She said, "Trust yourself. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement."
Are you willing to risk the disapproval of others? To cultivate your core worth, and believe that you are on Earth to leave your unique mark?
Be sure you do not measure yourself against others. Instead, rally for your innate qualities to emerge and bring them forth for others to see.
Become the beacon of inner faith -- the shining star in the dark night and behold, you will elicit great gifts to illuminate yourself and inspire others.