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Posted March 03, 2007
Q. How do we change? -- A.B., Deerfield Beach
A. We change incrementally, dramatically, or slightly; yet everyone and everything changes. Heraclitus is often quoted because he said, "Nothing is permanent but change."
The question you pose can be answered on many levels.
On a physical level, our skin sloughs off, our organs age and our cells change.
Spiritually, as we develop a deeper relationship with God, we change.
Psychologically, as we become more accepting of ourselves and others, we change.
Emotionally, as we forgive ourselves and others, we change.
We can change reluctantly or enthusiastically.
Novelist Anatole France said, "All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we enter into another."
The circumstances of our lives often dictate the changes we encounter.
The real question is, how do you accept change? How do you integrate new aspects of yourself and new situations into your life?
Some people bemoan change. Others invite it. When change knocks upon your door, welcome it.
Let go of controlling outcomes. Commit yourself to trusting that change happens as part of your birthright. We change in every moment, even if it seems familiar.
Author Alan Cohen writes, "It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power."