Have you ever received a similar message or inspiration on the same day? I call it stereo learning and tell myself that the universe, or my higher power, really wants to get my attention. This just happened.
While rifling through some articles I’ve written, two jumped out. One regarding an interview with Dr. Phil and another from Don Miguel Ruiz, author of The Four Agreements. Both essentially said the same thing.
Early in life, while we were interpreting the world and making agreements, our parents rewarded us when we did what they wanted and punished us when we didn’t.
We also learned behaviors and habits from others we've watched, living much of our lives according to their opinions. In the process of this ‘domestication,’ a term Ruiz coined, and Dr. Phil describes as our ‘inauthentic selves,’ most of the choices we make — are not our own. They are the culmination of everything we surmised.
Now hold on, I know you've done a lot of growing, changing and making new decisions.This is wonderful! Me too, I've become more aware and thankfully, realize I can be more authentic, self informed and inner directed.
YES, we can shed the voices in our head and in doing so, become more congruent and integrated. It turns out, this is a forever process, at least for me, so I’m sharing this information as a reminder and a little extra support to rely upon throughout the new year.
This morning’s wake up call brought me back to The Four Agreements.
1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don’t Take Anything Personally - This one is my New Year's Resolution Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don’t Make Assumptions Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
Don Miguel refers to people who adopt the Four Agreements as Spiritual Warriors.
Spiritual, because it is about living a truly connected Life. Warrior because anytime you challenge old fear based beliefs in your mind, you will have to seize control over the tyranny of the inner judge and to discard old fruitless habits.
There will be some battles along the way,
so be prepared to stand up for your best Self!
Here comes 2021 —and after a year of slowing down, going within and witnessing a quieter world, we are collectively waking up and making new choices. What gift of wisdom are you bringing out into the world? How can you be the change you wish to see? Will you make a resolution this year?
I'd love to hear - so email me at Liz@AskLiz.com and let me know what's showing up for you.
Blessings galore, my friend!
Love,Liz